Being Fired: Keeping Things in Perspective

I have never been fired- until yesterday.

Recently, I picked up a job as an independent contractor performing dispatch. It was really great. Our friend ran most of the business, I got to stay at home answer the phone, and put in orders. Super easy and since I’m a stay at home mom, no need for daycare. The work was just to make some extra spending money $50-100 a week. Still, to a mom who is very spend-thrifty it seemed to have endless possibilities.

I was shocked when I received a call from my friend’s son, he is very sweet, informing me that his dad was thinking of firing me. His dad was not in the car and didn’t realize his worried son even called. I laughed and told him he was being very kind to think of me, but not to be concerned about it. I quickly went through a list in my head of reasons why I would be fired. Perhaps the company was too small to consistently pay me, or maybe I wasn’t doing a very good job? (I was only trained in 30 minutes.) Surprisingly, when I called my friend, he said, “Yes,” they were going to let me go. But, not for reasons I would have thought. Some clients had complained about the children in the background.

Eowyn, Baby Dee, and Me

After being fired I found myself disheartened, but also bemused by the reasoning. Children have always been a way of life for me. My mother owns 51% of the successful company my parents share together. My mother has five- now grown- children.  When we were younger she was taking a million calls from people and running the business. She did it at home-with five kids (sometimes 6.) I didn’t really think of children as an annoyance or hindrance, but a way of life. She made business and kids somehow work. (Of course she would get frustrated on occasion.)

This being said, I do not blame the business or my friend for letting me go. I honestly understand why they would need someone more professional and available to catch every single call perfectly.

It would appear my children were a drawback in this ares. I do think, however, that children should not be looked as a hindrance to your dreams- financially, spiritually, or physically. It would be easy for me to get upset with my children, not just in this matter, but in others as well. Many parents know what it is like to be denied something or for plans not to work the way we wish because of our kids. I have found myself occasionally thinking about being a journalist, whisking myself away to Europe, or owning a beautiful house and being a little disgruntled with my children. Which is ridiculous! All these dreams and more are still possible whether I have kids or not. In fact, the greatest thing I will ever accomplish in my life is them. If you have had to delay plans or change them because of your kids I encourage you to not grow in bitterness. Children are a blessing of God and when you feel that way, confess it! My children are a blessing to me. I can even say my kids have opened more doors for me than they could possibly ever close. Sometimes I just need the reminder.

Happy Mothering!

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13 thoughts on “Being Fired: Keeping Things in Perspective

  1. modestmeese says:

    I’ve been wanting to work from home for YEARS now but there isn’t anything like that where I live and everything I’ve tried to apply to online seems to be a scam. Regardless, I always feared that if I did get the job, how would I be able to keep my kids quiet during a phone call? I understand where your friend is coming from but how do other mothers that you read about do it? Do they wait until the kids are napping? I’m sorry for the questions. This post just really interested me. I’m sorry that you had to be let go and especially for that reason. Do you happen to know of any other at home jobs that you know are legit? Thank you in advance!

    • One thing I can recommend you look into, Medical or Legal Transcription is a booming at home business. If you have a local community college or you can look for legitimate online courses. You can find them pretty reasonable in price and they do not take that long to complete. I have a friend who does Medical Transcription from home and absolutely loves it and makes decent money doing it.

  2. Question away! I love getting feed back and hope to at least answer a little of your curiosity. I can’t say I know anything online that is legitimate. I’m sure there is something out there, but what it would be I have no clue. This job fell into my lap without a search. I really think some mothers are able to do this, even with noise, because the company isn’t picky. Or it is their own creation, such as my parent’s company. Considering what some of the stay at home gigs pay, and the inconsistency of it, they are fortunate to have someone available to take random calls during the day. Like you suggested with nap time, having your kids on a regular schedule is the best thing to make time, and to understand what hours would be best. My children are so young that, even on a schedule, they can get pretty loud. If I ever find something or believe in a lead good enough to follow I’ll be sure to mention it. 🙂

  3. Matthew Thompson says:

    Kids propel you well beyond what you would normally go. If need is the mother of inventions. Then children are the mother of a man pushing himself for greater success to take care of his family. My father went back to school at night and finished college with 5 kids. Why? So he could take better care of them. I too would not have been near as successful if it wasn’t for my kids that motivated me to get up and go to work every day my saying has always been “Baby cry Baby need milk.” So off to work I go to take care of baby. As far as being fired I don’t believe I have ever been fired that didn’t help me become a better worker. I think they make a headset that can only pick up sound that is spoke directly into it might look into that. Also you probably got fired over 1 complaint I doubt they got a whole bunch of calls worried about children noise in the back ground.

  4. Valerie says:

    I’m sorry about the job, but you have a wonderful attitude about losing it and what your children mean to you. ❤

  5. mummyshymz says:

    sorry to hear that you were fired. But I love how positive you are 🙂

  6. Thank you for this. I have a doctorate that I have never had a chance to use as I had our first child just a few months after I graduated and became a SAHM out of necessity (no family nearby to help with childcare and financially with 2 more in 5 years it made no sense to work just to pay for daycare). Some days it just kills me that I am not using that degree, usually as I am cleaning up messes and wiping butts and dreaming of talking to adults, etc., but this was a great reminder that this is just for a season and there is nothing more important than being there for my kids. This definitely helped reshape my attitude today! 🙂

    • That is amazing, a doctorate! I’m so glad my pep talk for myself could speak to you. And I really understand the daycare verses staying at home. If I did decide to get a regular job it would just cover the daycare. I too miss adult chatter. Sometimes when we go out I just want to be all, “Hello stranger, Do you know I am out of the house today!” btw, I read your funny outing aloud to my husband when he got home from work. We were both cracking up so hard. Very relatable. Thank for the funny outlook it really helps us other parents (like myself) in dealing with our lovely monsters.

      • Glad it could make you laugh. It was quite the morning 🙂 I am currently looking for a part time job while my youngest goes to preschool a few days a week since I haven’t been able to find anything to do from home and it’s so depressing sometimes when nothing seems to work out so your post definitely hit home at just the right time for me!

  7. mamacita says:

    I’m sorry you lost your job, however ‘small’ it was, it’s a piece of independance, and yours…
    Thank you for this blog post. I’ve been trying to get back to work lately after 3 kids (need the money!) and sometimes I’ve caught myself feeling resentful at my kids for holding me back or contstraining what I can and can’t do…it’s not thier fault. Yes i’ve sacrificed my career so far for them, I can’t earn loads of money to buy a nice house etc, but I was there for them at home for many years and I think that is a gift…I just need to recognise it myself also…
    Anyway, thanks for the food for thought!

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